Relationship between fear and the fetish

There is a great deal of similarity between the feeling of excitement and the feeling of fear - the heart rate quickens - we may sweat a little - and our attention is normally centered on just one thing - the thing that is causing the excitement or fear... or indeed both at the same time. So how can we tell the difference. There are circumstances where it is obvious - we are likely to have fear of something that is clearly dangerous, and we will be excited in pleasurable situations.

But there are a whole load of different situations where there are elements of fear AND excitement - in fact we sometimes go out of our way to experience both at the same time - fairground rides - motor sport - bungee jumping, and it is because we are very bad at telling the difference between fear and excitement in these situations that means we can label them how we want to - scary or fun or a mixture of the two - it is our attitude to the situation which mainly determines what the label will be.

So how does this apply to balloons ? Balloons are quite unique objects and so can be fascinating - a normal 'toyshop' balloon will start out a couple of inches across but when you blow air in it will expand to a foot or so - nothing else on the planet does that - and they have a nice feel to them - they can be squishy and soft and so feel like skin - practically any part of the body you care to name - they can be batted around and played with in all manner of ways. You can decorate a room with bunches of them and they will add bright color and a pleasant form to make a pretty display. You can do battle with them and hit your 'enemy' with them without any fear of injury. They are light and airy, pretty and captivating and EXCITING but... there's always the FEAR that one will explode. Even those who are not phobic about balloons bursting are likely to jump when that happens - and if there is a balloon you really like for whatever reason - there's the FEAR of losing this fascinating but fragile object.

So how can all this kids' stuff impact on our adult lives ? There are many theories but there is one thing that is certain - very early experiences can have a dramatic effect - though there is little definitive data on the subject, the 'Early beginnings' page seeks to clarify a poorly understood, and in some ways taboo subject.

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