Being more confident can help
Every time you find that you are capable of doing something - it reinforces the
feeling that you can achieve the things you set out to do. The more things you
find you can do, the more you can imagine you can do - it will all increase
your confidence - and confidence dispels fear.
Finding confidence in one area of life has an effect on other parts of your life
so it will help with any phobia or fear. To make sure that you are going to
succeed in the things you attempt, it is always a good idea to ask for advice from
other people and wherever possible try to get their help - you may be surprised
just how many people are willing to help out.
Here are some of the things I have found out that give us cause to be confident...
The vast majority of people in the world are nice people just trying to live as best
they can - just like you... and just like you they have their fears and joys... and
just like you there are times and places where they feel confidant - and times and
places where they don't. Many people are ready to share their secrets with you - but
they are only waiting for you to share some of your secrets with them. Avoid brash
people - they are usually just pretending to be confident without any real
solidity. There are of course a few - a very few people who just aren't nice at all -
but there really aren't many of them - and they can just be ignored - there are so
many nice people in the world to talk to.
Don't worry about your dance style at a disco - everyone had to start sometime - just
relax , let go and enjoy yourself... and the more you dance, the better you will
become at it... and the more you will enjoy it.
Ok - write and tell me about all the good things in life that should make us feel
good about ourselves - and I may include the best of the suggestions here.
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